my 2015 to come

Ok, this is a ramble by the end I get to my intentions and how I made them – that’s probably the interesting bit, but I liked the rest too so left it in anyway 🙂

The 2015 intentions setting (not resolutions) all started in the stress and hubbub of December 2014, when one morning I noted that instead of doing an online yoga session and feeling balanced and awesome, I had (once again) got diverted to facebook and was feeling scared, angry, hopeless and had a headache too. I knew it was time to Slow Down With the Social Media and after thinking about it for a few days I …

  • put facebook on holiday with no time limit or immediate plans to reinstate
  • started reading my personal email just once a week, and
  • took a holiday from blogging while I figured out what I want to accomplish and what I want to invest.

I got some pretty immediate results, some being…

  • I excised for at least an hour every day (and lost a kilo over Christmas)
  • I walked and caught public transport to work (and reduced my carbon footprint)
  • I sewed 5 dresses (and am well on my way to wearing only clothes that are made equitably and mindful of the environment)
  • I caught up with a neighbour I love but hadn’t made the time to see in months and also with some other old friends, in person – so satisfying! And,
  • I created a new vision for me and my blogging

So, my new intentions are

  • to connect
  • to contribute
  • to be fully self-expressed
  • to experience ease, and
  • to have some fun and play

I like intentions better than the usual ‘I will do this,’ or ‘I won’t do that’ resolutions stuff. Intentions allow flexibility and are thus more likely (for me) to be accomplished. For example, I once set the resolution that ‘I will run every day’ but then got stumped when I got really sick, had to have an operation and wasn’t able to do any real exercise for two months. So I got depressed and angry, hurt myself trying to get back into running too quickly, became a burden for others for longer than necessary and comfort ate and put on a bit of weight. But if I had the intention of ‘valuing my health’ I could then have come up with an alternative, like resting and doing the very gentle exercises given by my physio until I was well enough to ease back into walking then running. Dammit, I could have even bobbed about in a pool for a bit. Sigh…

The other thing I like about intentions is that they are a bit magical, in that they often start appearing in unplanned and unexpected ways, and all I have to do is say ‘yes.’ Like when in Kuranda I set an intention of ‘community’ and almost tripped over a habitat group while walking to the library a few days later. Following intentions may also lead to unexpected and magical results – like the time when I set the intention of ‘being considerate’ and so slept on the verandah lounge instead of waking my family in the middle of the night when I forgot my keys and woke to a beautiful sunrise and serenade by magpies – an unforgettably magical morning really.

How I made my intentions (probably the good bit)

I made the intentions using a list of universal human needs. You can find such a list here. I highlighted the needs that were important, then of those kept the ones that seemed most important (while reassuring myself that they are all important) until I got to just five. And these five make me feel warm and optimistic and content too. All good feelings to be having 🙂

With thanks to the New York Centre for Nonviolent Communication who are responsible for the needs list – and many other awesome things 🙂

4 thoughts on “my 2015 to come

  1. Hi scribblewoman, thanks for following my blog. It seems as if we have much in common: mindfulness, connection, contribution, care for the environment.

    I was just reading in John Gottman “The Relationship Cure” of how we can be mindful of opportunities for deep connection, collecting a string of pearls of moments of emotional connections, and setting the goal of collecting three a day, at least. Moments where we are really present with each other, nothing to do, nowhere to go.

    I hope my blog brings you some!

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  2. Hi Scribble,
    I saw that you liked the Monday post on my blog, thank you! So I came to check out yours, and found our common love of NVC (mine is newly budding, but still there). I read the post above kind of randomly, and loved the way you specified that setting intentions was NOT setting resolutions. On that vein, I immediately thought of something you might find enjoyable and relevant. It was a gift to me last Christmas, “The Desire Map” by Danielle LaPorte. It is a FANTASTIC book, which takes the “no New Year’s Resolutions” to a whole new level. It is a workbook of sorts, and focuses on setting DESIRES for the year, FEELINGS. It may just be the perfect compliment to your own intention setting, and I’ve done it already twice this year! If you have already heard of it, fantastic! If not, it’s definitely a good investment. One of the best! Keep writing, I can’t wait to read more!

    Kat

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    1. Hi Kat – thankyou for visiting and for the recommendation as well 🙂 I am always looking for something new to read in this area. I also LOVE finding other blogs that talk about nvc! Cheers, Rowena.

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